September 28, 2025
When A Man Loves A Woman
- Matt Nickoson
Sermon Notes
When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothin' else
He'd trade the world
For the good thing he's found
If she is bad, he can't see it
She can do no wrong
And turn his back on his best friend
If he puts her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
And tryin’ to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way it ought to be
When a man loves a woman
I give you everything I've got
Trying to hold on to your precious love
And baby baby please don't treat me bad
- Michael Bolton cover, When a Man Loves a Woman, 1991
What does it look like for a Godly man to love His woman?
Ephesians 5:33 NIV
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Ephesians 5:1-2 NIV
Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
Men, I want you to look at your wife and say, “I am committed to giving up myself to serve your needs”.
“Spouses who fall out of love tend to fight instead of resolving their conflicts the right way—with care and respect.” - Willard F. Harley Jr., His Needs, Her Needs: Making Romantic Love Last
Ephesians 5:21 NIV
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Ephesians 5:22-23 NIV
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
God created men first so they could boldly and compassionately lead.
Genesis 2:18 NIV
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
God made men to work and to provide.
1 Timothy 5:8 NASB2020
But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
Genesis 2:19 NIV
Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.
Genesis 2:20 NIV
So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found.
Genesis 2:21 NIV
So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.
Genesis 2:22 NIV
Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
Men: God is aware of your need before you and intends to help solve your problems!
Genesis 2:23 NIV
The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
Adam’s first act of love over Eve was to sing her a song!
Men, when was the last time you expressed affection to your wife in a way that is meaningful to her?
“To most women, affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort, and approval, vitally important commodities in their eyes. When a husband shows his wife affection, he sends the following messages: I care about you. You are important to me, and I don’t want anything to happen to you. I’m concerned about the problems you face and I’ll try to help you overcome them.” - Willard F. Harley Jr., His Needs, Her Needs: Making Romantic Love Last
Ephesians 5:25 NIV
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…
The principle is this: If God does it for you – you do it for her!
God rejoices over you; rejoice over her!
Zephaniah 3:17 NIV
“In his love he will …rejoice over you with singing.”
God went first to fix the brokenness between you; you go first to fix any brokenness also.
Romans 5:8 NIV
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
God is unfathomably patient and gracious with you in your stubbornness; be long-suffering with her.
Psalms 103:8 NIV
The Lord is compassionate and gracious,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
God listens to all of your prayers and desires to act on your behalf; Make time to listen to her.
1 John 5:14-15 NIV
This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.
If you make sure your needs are met, make sure her needs are met also.
Ephesians 5:28 NIV
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:29-30 NIV
After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body.
“How are you feeling? What problems are you facing? How can I help you solve those problems? That’s the kind of conversation that helps married couples stay in love with each other. Or it leads people into affairs when it’s done outside of marriage and with someone of the opposite sex. It’s intimate conversation.” - Willard F. Harley Jr., His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
Ephesians 5:31 NIV
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
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